Valentine's Day campaign highlights "darker side" of dating


Nearly four-in-ten young women in Ireland have been emotionally abused by a partner, according to Women’s Aid.

The charity is launching its #TooIntoYou campaign this morning – in a bid to highlight the “darker side of relationships.”

The three-week campaign has been launched to coincide with Valentine’s Day and will run until International Women’s Day.

The charity said many young women remain unaware of that new domestic violence laws offer protections from abuse while dating.

It has launched a new instant messaging service to provide support to women online and is distributing its new free ‘The Law is on Your Side’ guide.

The campaign also helps young women spot the 10 key danger signs of dating abuse and provides information on how to tackle online stalking and digital abuse.


Women’s Aid CEO Sarah Benson outlines some of the more serious things that have been reported to the charity.

“Things like being stalked online, somebody monitoring a woman through her social media pages, sending harassing messages, posting false messages on their social media pages,” she said.

“And the most serious of, all in terms of its horrific impact, would be image-based sexual abuse which is often misrepresented using the term, ‘revenge porn.’”


She said that when somebody is stalking a partner they will often “use both real-life approaches and then use the online component as an additional way of tracking somebody.”

“Usually also it is the intention, certainly in the context of a domestic abuse or intimate partner abuse situation, that somebody want the victim to know they are being watched,” she said.


She urged anyone who feels something is not right in their relationship to contact the charity, adding “you are not alone.”

“Your partner does not have the right to control and abuse you,” she said. “You should not have to worry about how he will react to what you do.”

“Dating abuse is wrong and no one deserves to be threatened, beaten or be in fear for their safety.”

You can contact Women’s Aid through its new Instant Messaging Support Service or calling the 24hr National Freephone Helpline on 1800 341 900.