Guys, girls, old, young, whether you've only had a few partners or have notched more than a few bedposts, there's always room for improvement.
Men's Health magazine is telling its reader that the new sexual frontier is giving their partners blended orgasms. And we're all for it.
What a lot of people don't know – guys and gals - is that the clitoris is more than just a bud at the top of the vulva.
“The clitoris extends inside the vagina and pelvic floor, branching into a wishbone shape,” sex therapist Jenni Skyler told the magazine.
And science, with the use of functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI), found that a woman has numerous other erogenous zones: the G-spot, the O-spot, the A-spot, nipples and booty G-spot. Now that's information worth knowing.
According to Womanizer ambassador andsexologist Chantelle Otten, a blended orgasm is an orgasm that results from stimulating the clitoris and another erogenous zone at the same time.
Before you have one, let's backtrack and explain how vaginal and clitoral orgasms work.
"The vaginal orgasm usually involves a toy or a penis hitting the clitoral nerves that are on the inside of the vagina, or hitting the G-spot which is basically an area where a lot of those clitoral nerves are located, which are in and above the inside of the vagina," Otten said.
"The G-spot is sensitive because it is part of that clitoral nerve ending network. The clitoris goes about 7cm into the vagina and the clitoral root is located in the upper side of the anterior vaginal wall, so when you do stimulate that G-spot area, it is actually stimulating part of the clitoris.
"Eternal clitoral orgasms are achieved when you stimulate the clitoris, that is the organ located on the external of the vulva at the top of that vaginal opening. It basically needs a little bit of pressure and repetitive motion.
"A blended orgasm is when both of these areas are stimulated simultaneously and is a very intense, amazing orgasm."
How to achieve a blended orgasm
"It's actually quite easy," Otten said.
"I would suggest that if you are solo, you use a toy of some sort. The Womanizer Duo stimulates the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time. It has this amazing air pressure technology to massage and suck on the external clitoral area and it also has a vibrator that is internal for G-spot stimulation. It's curved so it's easier to reach the G-spot and it has 12 levels of intensity.
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''Another way you could do it is to use your fingers or an internal sex toy. Basically, if you use your fingers you reach them in and up towards the vaginal wall, up near your belly button, curve your fingers and you do a come hither movement. Bring your fingers back and forth and apply fast and hard pressure in a repetitive motion to that area and maybe use a clitoral suction vibrator on the front.
"If you are trying to do a partnered blended orgasm, what I find is best is have your partner reach their fingers in toward your G-spot first and do that come hither motion and they could either use their tongue or fingers to stimulate the clitoris at the same time.
"So it's kind of a blend of oral sex and penetration at the same time. Otherwise, what they could do is through penetration of the penis, maybe in reverse cowgirl or standing with a partner behind or doggy style with the hand reaching forward and stimulating the clitoris at the same time."
O-spot
Mastered the G-spot? Then move along the alphabet.
While the cervix doesn’t have a lot of touch-sensitive nerves, the area behind it, right up the back of the vagina, is known as the O-spot.
Use a G-spot stimulating sex toy, while playing with her clitoris, to apply pressure to the cervix. How do you know when you've got it right? Insert the the toy as far as it will go, then try to push it in a tiny bit more.
A-spot
Its technical name is the anterior fornix erogenous zone but is also known as the female prostate. You can find it near the cervix, on the front vaginal wall, just north of the G-spot. Think an inch or two.
To get to it, you need to go deep, doggy style is the best option. The other option is anal play, because the A-spot and rectum are pretty close neighbours.
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Booty
When anal play and oral clitoral stimulation come together, the results can be explosive.
“The intensity of feeling full from anal penetration can enhance an orgasm,” Skyler said.
“Basically, all the nerve endings in and around the anus are being contacted and pleasured.”
Unlike the A-spot, this isn't about going deep. Most of the anus' nerve endings are around the sphincter. So go slow and don't forget the lube.
Nipples
Remember that fMRI research we talked about earlier? It found that nipple nerve endings activate the same part of the brain as clitoral ones.
Fingers or tongue work well here as does suction or gear such as nipple clamps and feather ticklers. Use similar teasing motions on the clitoris at the same time.
Blend external clitoral stimulation with two or more hot spots
One last big tip if your partner can co-ordinate.
Holly Richmond, Ph.D., C.S.T., L.M.F.T., a somatic psychologist and certified sex therapist told Men's Health that you can stimulate multiple erogenous zones at once by using a butt plug to take care of anal pleasure while stimulating the G-spot and external clitoris.
Or have your partner suck on your nipples while you use a vibrator on your clitoris during penetrative sex.
