My husband has continued to see his ex after agreeing not to

He cheated on me with her and I forgave him. I don’t know what to do about the fact that he still visits her

My husband’s ex-girlfriend is still obsessed with him. My mother-in-law remains on good terms with her and is currently letting her stay at her house. My husband cheated on me with her and I forgave him. Now, when he visits his mum, he doesn’t take me with him while his ex is there, even though he agreed that he wouldn’t see her again. I don’t know what to do or how to cope with this.

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